As luscious as the grass was in the UBF's new field, he decided he didn't like it. He protested as I lead him by standing on his back legs and striking out. I managed to persuade him to go into the field but he was very stressed all day, running up and down the fence and not settling to graze. I sat with him at lunchtime - he wouldn't leave me, he screamed when I left and it was obvious he felt vulnerable by himself. It was then I decided that the UBF could stay in his original little paddock where he felt more comfortable, until his new friend arrived in July.
I think both the UBF and I were relieved with this decision. I assume he had not been handled very much in his previous life and I was expecting too much of him too soon. He ran me over as I lead him, he reared up, he marched ahead with me following behind - it felt dangerous and I knew we had to start from the beginning.
The UBF had not had time to settle, to breathe between operations - he hadn't had time to get to know me. I was the person who brought food and gave him medicines, injections and caused more pain. So I knew I had to just simply be with him. Not doing anything at all.
It's harder than it sounds, just simply being. I entered his paddock and sat near the gate (for a speedy exit in case he got boisterous). I sat watching him munch on his hay, breathing in the sounds and the smells of nature around me. He flicked an ear and watched me out of the corner of his eye, after about 20 minutes he wandered over to say 'hello'. He didn't bite, or invade my space or rear up on me - he simply sniffed my boots and touched my hand. I spoke softly and continued sitting as he calmly walked away. It was thrilling that he chose to do that - and each day he came over even more, he engaged with my hands and was keen to stay by me.
I did nothing. I didn't feed him, I didn't pet him, I didn't even touch him unless he touched me. That was the start of the journey right there. Now he was feeling better - we could really begin to develop our relationship.



